The Speed of Dark

A woman in Irving, Texas killed her two autistic children, then called the police and turned herself in, saying she didn’t want them to live like that.
The story, and the reactions to it (both here and the Star Telegram: http://www.star-telegram.com/2010/07/20/2349223/09-cps-inquiry-on-irving-family.html) reveals a lot–but not enough–about the woman, her situation, the state’s social services, and the attitude of the public towards women who kill family members, including children, v. men who kill family members, including children.

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For parents,  a child’s “pathology”  or diagnosis may sometimes seem to encompass the whole world.   You’re in the trenches, dealing with it every day–the child’s behaviors, the child’s struggles, the reaction of those around you to the child and the child’s struggles, and your struggles, the therapy appointments, the judgments so many people make about you as a parent and your child as a child.   Anyone in any of life’s “trenches” (whether it’s a health or economic or social trench)  begins to feel that the sides of the trench and the shells raining down from above define reality.

But that’s not the case.

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